What difficult thoughts, emotional triggers or behaviours impact or influence my life right here, right now that get in the way of living a rich, full meaningful life or being the person I’d like to be?
What are you doing that seems to make life worse or makes you feel stuck?
Getting hooked on specific thoughts.
Worrying about past and future.
Judgement – not good enough, of oneself and others
Reason giving or excuses
Rules about yourself or others – right and wrong way of doing things
Important or meaningful people, places, events, activities, situations that you are avoiding or trying to escape from
Private experiences you avoid, get rid of or unwilling to have – thoughts, memories, emotions
You will be learning new skills to help you handle these difficult thoughts and feelings more effectively, so they have less impact and influence over you.
What aspect of your life is most important to you?
work, study, health, parenting, marriage or intimate relationships, friends, family, spirituality, community
Identify values important within the aspects you have chosen. (see values list)
What do you want to achieve?
– Emotional Goals: What are these difficult thoughts, feelings, images, emotions, sensations, memories, urges you’d like to have less of?
– Behavioural goals: What would you like to stop/start; do more/less of?
Any activities you’d like to start, resume or develop?
What people, places, events, activities, challenges would you like to approach rather than avoid? What relationship would you like to improve and how?
What life problems do you want to solve?
Are there psychological/physical or external barriers that stop you from living a rich full meaningful life?
What strengths, skills, personal resources do you already have that can help you?
Who do you turn to for support?
What small steps can I take to help me achieve my goal/s? (Towards Moves)
S = Specific
What specific actions will you take?
If a goal is vague and non-specific (e.g. I’m going to wake up early) it’s going to be hard to know if you have achieved it or not. So change it to a specific goal (e.g. I’m going to get up at 7am every day.)
M = Meaningful
What values will you be living by, when you do this?
If the goal is not meaningful – i.e. aligned with values – why bother? Either set a new one that is meaningful, or explicitly link the current goal to values, so it becomes meaningful (e.g. remind yourself “Doing this would be living my values of being committed.”)
R = Realistic
Is the goal realistic for the resources currently available – which may include time, energy, money, physical health, social support, and so on?
T = Time-framed
What day, date, and time will this occur, and for how long will you do it?